The Truth Will Set You Free
“Love does not insist on its own way…” 1 Corinthians 13:4
In John 8:32, Jesus teaches us that “The truth will set you free.” That truth I experienced in 1999 when I attended a Unidos en Cristo weekend, a weekend where I was bathed in God’s Word and His grace. It was the beginning of a life free from a powerful sin that had reigned in my life. That sin was pride.
When Nancy and I got married in 1984, everything was wonderful for the first couple of years. In December of 1986, things began to change. Our first daughter was born and Nancy became a stay-at-home mom. I began working 6-7 days a week, 8-16 hours a day to make up for the lost income, while continuing to keep up with home maintenance and helping with our daughter. When our 2nd daughter was born less than 2 years later, all I could focus on was the huge mortgage, the car payment, and the weekly grocery bill. I sometimes wondered why I had left my family and friends in North Dakota. To relieve my stress and anxiety, I often headed for the nearest bar when I got off work at midnight. It was there that I quickly gained new “friends”; co-workers who gave me the companionship I thought I wanted. It never occurred to me to look for companionship in Jesus Christ. Money became an idol to me and my marriage began to suffer. I was irritable, easily angered, and arrogant not only at work, but at home as well. I believed that since I was the bread winner in my family, I had the right to do as I pleased. Was I “insisting on my own way”? Of course! But I felt justified in doing so.
One day after another heated argument with Nancy, our 4-year old daughter said something to her that really bothered me. She said, “Maybe Daddy loves his friends more than he loves us.” Nancy told me about this and I know now that Jesus was using the words of a 4-year old child to reach out to me. My selfish and sinful pride was separating me from my family and I realized that I was the one who needed to change. I needed to let God change me!
God began to work in my life and I began to seek Him. I asked Jesus to be Lord of my life and He set me free from the powerful sin of pride. He taught me that love does not insist on its own way. I have learned to put God first, my wife second and myself last. I am grateful that God’s grace is bigger than my sin. How awesome it is to be free from the power of sinful pride.
Steve Staloch, Hope Deacon