What I’m Learning from Martha and Mary
This year I’m in a Bible Study with some moms from our kids’ school. We are studying a book together, Finding a Mary Heart in a Martha World. The title of the book caught my eye immediately, thinking of how I race from making lunches to dropping off kids, to meetings at work, to making dinner, to driving kids to activities while grabbing a phone call from a friend, then doing some laundry, feeding the dog, ironing a shirt or two and grabbing a minute to read one of the 5 books on my night stand.
How exactly do you find a Mary heart in a Martha world and have an inward sense of peace in the midst of everyday crazy life? In our study, the author encourages her readers to ask God what is the “one thing” God wants you to do next. Mary sat at the Lord’s feet. Jesus tells Martha she is “worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41-42)
I think it has to do with living life connected to the source, feeling the Spirit’s nudge throughout your day. This is what Paul speaks about when he writes to the church in Galatia, “So I say, live by the Spirit…” (Galatians 5:16a).
I believe God gave me a nudge like that one day when I was picking up the kids from school. I saw my friend Pam parked in her same spot ready to pick up her son, reading her book with her dog in the car. I hadn’t connected with her in awhile and decided to tap on her window and catch up. We chatted for a good 10-15 minutes about life and things the kids were doing, trips and family outings coming up. We smiled and said goodbye.
Little did I know that would be the last time I would speak with her. Two and a half weeks later Pam died suddenly in her sleep from a heart attack. It has been a devastating loss for our school community and especially for her immediate family. I am so thankful I had that time with Pam. I’m grateful I acted on that nudge to go tap on her window. It seems like a trite moment in the horrible loss of her life and yet God gave me the gift of that moment with Pam and I will always treasure it.
What I’m learning about Martha and Mary is that I still have a lot of things to do each day, but I can choose how to do them and take an extra 5 or 10 or 15 minutes to spend on the things that really matter.
In memory of Pamela Duckson, welcomed into the arms of our Lord on September 13, 2014.
KC DiNardo, Director of Student Ministries