How Is Your Response?
Every day we have thousands of mini choices to make. Do I take the highway or back streets? Should I wear this shirt? Should I call that person? Do I take an extra couple minutes to chat with the store clerk? When can I exercise?
Prioritizing. We all are given 24 hours each day to use as we wish.
We also have choices in the way we speak to others, respond to others, approach others. We can do that in boldness, in anger, in haste. We can do that in kindness, with joy, with calm.
My Grandma, Shirley Trepanier Dibble, was one of my closest friends. I learned a lot from her about the deep simple ways to live a life of honor and integrity and faith. She attended Temple Baptist and brought her 4 kids every Sunday. After my grandfather passed away, I had many lunches and breakfasts and tea times with my Gram. She was always interested in what was going on in my life. She always told me the most important thing in a spouse was to marry someone who was kind. Deep and simple, that was my Gram.
One day I was over at her apartment for a cup of tea and I was asking her about her life as a mom of 4 kids. I knew she never worked outside the home and never drove a car either. I asked her quite boldy, in my ignorance, “What did you do all day, Gram?” She didn’t miss a beat. She said, “Well, I cooked, I kept house, I cleaned, I did laundry…” It wasn’t until years later that I remembered back to that moment, now with 4 kids of my own, and cringed at my question. I was so grateful and thankful for her kind answer. She could have responded much differently. “What did I DO all day? KC, do you have any idea how hard I worked, how difficult it was to endure the depression, what it was like raising 4 kids…”
But she didn’t respond that way. She responded in kindness, with love for me. She knew I still had a lot to learn. She taught me more in that response than she could have ever communicated with facts or an “I’ll teach her” attitude.
She lived her faith in subtle small ways that made a deep impact on those she encountered.
We all have the same choices everyday. How will we choose to respond?
Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ.
KC DiNardo, Director of Student Ministries