Living the Story in MY FAMILY
If you know me, you know that I’m a get’er done kind of girl. I love the feeling of being productive and accomplishing a task. Most days this is a good quality, but on my worst days, I treat people like a task to complete – even my own family.
Has breakfast been served? Check.
Is the laundry washed, folded, and put away. Check.
Are the lunches made? Check.
Did homework get completed? Check.
Have I organized carpools for our many evening activities? Check.
Have I had a meaningful moment or conversations with my husband or kids? UGH!
The pace of life makes it easy to race through days without a moment to stop and enjoy my family’s company or listen to one another. Creating holy habits gives an opportunity to rise above the task and be present to what is actually happening – where love is being shared, hearts are being nurtured, and family is growing together.
In our family a few holy habits help me with this, especially praying before school and family dinners.
Somedays our prayers before school are so routine that I could tell you exactly what I prayed because I’ve prayed the same prayer one hundred times. While other days the prayer flows differently and I know that God is leading me to pray for my kids needs in a fresh way. It happened today as I recalled a conversation with one of my kids when he shared about a message he heard about Jonah going to Nineveh. We discussed how each of us has Nineveh places in our lives and early this morning I prayed that God would help him obediently go to his “Nineveh” – even when it’s hard. I’m thankful for those holy moments when God breaks through the routine and does more than I could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
We’ve worked hard to maintain family dinners – even though most days we eat at 4:30 pm! There is something sacred that happens around the table. Many days we are shoveling food in to get to our activities on time, while other days we are present in an important way. When the kids were little we started asking them to share their POW & WOW at dinner (something challenging during their day and something great to celebrate). This routine helps us be a part of one another’s lives. More recently we’ve added – POW, WOW, & HOW. The “HOW” asks, “how did you see God at work today?” And our youngest has added POW, WOW, HOW & COW, “what animal did you see today?” And some days we just laugh at the dinner table – like this week when one of my kids decided to sing a song in a wild voice at the dinner table. It struck me funny and I couldn’t stop laughing until the tears started to flow! The kids delighted in seeing me this way. I am grateful for holy moments around the table.
Don’t get me wrong the Laufenburgers have plenty of “unholy” moments, but when I pause to think about it, I’m thankful for the ways that God breaks through and reveals himself and helps us to LIVE HIS STORY TOGETHER!
Kim Laufenburger, Executive Minister and Hope Shores Co-Director